How to get your ex boyfriend back? This is the discussion my little sister and her girlfriend were having when I walked into the room. At first they were hesitant to speak in my presence but, I guess because my sister and I used to talk openly, they invited me into the discussion. My sister also knew that she had helped other people with the same problem, so she knew that she had some valuable advice to offer when it came to knowing how to get her ex boyfriend back.
The first thing I did was talk directly to my sister’s friend to find out exactly what was going on between her and her ex-boyfriend. It soon became clear that in an effort to get her ex back from her, she was actually smothering him.
You see, she was desperately in love with the guy and in an effort to communicate with him, she was constantly calling him on the phone, sending him texts and emails. She was willing to do anything, at every opportunity, just to talk to this man. In fact, she was embarrassed to tell me that on the few occasions that she managed to talk to him, she turned into a stammering idiot as she desperately tried to explain to him how much she loved him.
What she had to explain to him was that all she was doing was pushing him further with all that over the top behavior. He had to make her understand that it was human nature for men (usually) to resist that kind of pressure. He denied his hunting instincts. They preferred to be the ones chasing so that when they got the ‘prize’ they would feel proud that they succeeded in their efforts and won. All smoothing does is help push them further away.
If you want to know how to get your ex boyfriend back, I told him, you have to figure out how to massage his ego. By this I mean that you have to come up with a plan for him to chase you.
The first phase of this plan was to reduce, or better yet completely cut off, all contact with him. Will it be easy? Nope! But it will be the most important part of the overall plan to get his ex-boyfriend back. It means no phone calls, no texts, no emails, no communication of any kind. And ideally it should continue for about 3-4 weeks.
To help distract her so that this period of time passed with less pain, I advised her to use this time to improve her own personal life. I suggested that she call some of her old friends and organize some fun activities. These could be activities like going out and making new friends, male and female. I explained to her that having new male friends would actually increase her confidence in her ability to be comfortable with other people while having fair fun.
Trust, I explained, is the key when you want to get your ex boyfriend back. The safer you are, the more fun you will have. The more fun you have, the happier you should be. The happier you are, the easier it will be to attract significant people into your life and, more importantly, be more attractive to your ex boyfriend.
