There is no question that kissing, when done correctly, can create an intimacy and connection that can catapult a relationship. to the next level faster than any other act. However, when done wrong, a mediocre kiss can ruin a relationship with a partner with whom you could have everything in common. That’s why learning to kiss is a skill you should want to perfect even if you think you’re already a pretty good kisser.

Let’s think about this for a minute. Have you ever been with someone who was perfect in every way? You may have a common goal and agreed views on important issues. They can be extremely attentive and very generous with their time. They can even be very generous with small gifts and the like. Then comes the moment of truth. You get the chance to have your first kiss after a couple of dates and you find yourself totally blown away. Either it was like kissing a dead fish or it felt like it was trying to eat you up or maybe even some aspect of that first kiss that you just can’t put your finger on. Maybe you’ll even give them another chance considering the fact that maybe they were just nervous or trying too hard. But each time you find out that they just suck at kissing or even that there is just no passion when you kiss them.

Now think about this for a minute. Could it be that her partner or maybe someone she just started dating Could I feel the same for you? Do you want to take that risk and possibly miss out on the relationship of your life because you don’t know how to kiss? We’re going to brush up on your kissing technique for a bit here and get you on your way to being the kind of kisser your date will brag about to their friends on Monday morning.

Strain – It is important to create some sexual tension before that first kiss. Yes, they are thinking about it and you are thinking about it and chances are you both have been thinking about what that first kiss will be like from the moment you met. Don’t let them down by blowing it and choosing the wrong time to experience that first kiss. There will come a time when the two of you are alone and your eyes meet and without saying a word you will know that it is the moment you have both been waiting for.

Try not to appear too eager. Enjoy the heat of this moment. Live it and let yourself be carried away by the passion of the moment. Take it easy and allow this moment to last as long as possible. That sweet first kiss is the moment your partner has been waiting for since they first saw you, and as the two of you slowly move toward that first kiss, the tension builds to a point where it can almost seem unbearable. This is what you are looking for and this should be your goal. The sweetness and whisper of a kiss can be the most passionate kiss you can give your partner for their first kiss.

Passion – With that increasing tension will come passion and if you have done everything right and if your partner is really attracted to you, the passion will increase as your first kiss is followed by more kisses. Let yourself go for the moment. Go where your heart takes you and at the same time collect your partner’s tails. If they go wild with passion, then go for it. If he seems to be enjoying soft, tender kisses, then give it to him. There will be subtle clues along the way that you should be looking for. Are they holding you tight or touching you gently? Is your mouth open or closed? Do they seem shy or have they gone from zero to sixty in 2.3 seconds? It may be that they have been waiting a long time for this moment and the tension and passion are unbearable for them now that they are overwhelmed with passion for you.

talking – There is nothing wrong with whispering softly or even some louder vocalizations when kissing. Everyone is different and for some it is exciting while for others it is just a distraction that can be annoying. Try it or follow your partner’s lead? Usually, if your partner is a bit talkative, this means that they appreciate a few banter while you make out. If you don’t feel comfortable vocalizing while kissing, take it easy and move on. Again, for some it is a great turn on and a skill that can be learned and mastered without much effort.

Take these tips seriously and try to be in tune with your partner As you get closer to that first kiss and all the ones that follow, you will find that your relationship will benefit greatly. Kissing is a very important but often overlooked part of a relationship where we could all use a little help.