Although they have broken up, they know that their heart still yearns for their ex.

Whatever the conflicts, arguments, misunderstandings, you feel that your love for him is much more than all that pain.

Perhaps, you even made some mistakes in the relationship that you now regret.

All you want is to come back and make everything better and have his presence in your life again. In other words, you know without a doubt that you want him back.

As a love and relationship coach for women, I have seen several clients make critical mistakes right now when they want to get their exes back.

Did you know that the very things you want to do right now to get him back will keep him from coming back to you?

Yeah.

If you feel that calling him and “talking about” how sorry you are will bring him back, then you are sadly on the wrong track.

Here’s a golden nugget of expert advice: You can’t convince a man to have feelings for you and want to get back with you.

You have to create that experience within him of missing you and wanting you! That will get your man back and not any amount of talking or coaxing or worse, pleading.

So how do you create that experience for your man? My ways may seem counter-intuitive to you at first, but I can guarantee you that they work!

1) Give him the space to miss you

If you keep calling and texting and staying present in his life, you will never create that space he needs for him to miss you. You need to feel within yourself what you have lost. He needs to sit alone at the dinner table without you, he needs to miss your comforting voice and touch. He can only feel these feelings of missing you and wanting you if you are not there.

So, refrain from your urges to text and call or initiate any kind of contact with him.

I know this will be hard, but it’s worth practicing if you really want to get your man back.

2) Avoid places where he will be present

When we want to get our ex back, we make up all kinds of reasons to try to see him.

Let’s be honest. We attend the birthday party of that distant and boring acquaintance simply because we know that our man will be there. We also introduce ourselves to the golf class because we know that he visits that place regularly for his practice.

We thought that if he would only see us and we could talk about how sorry we are, the passion and feelings of the past would revive in his heart. Could not be farther from the truth.

When you arrive at a place or a party not only for yourself but with the hidden agenda of seeing your ex, he can instantly sense in your environment that he is the center of your life and that you subconsciously crave his attention. As you can imagine, this is not a very attractive and safe vibe for a woman to give a man. It definitely doesn’t help you bring him back. In fact, it pushes it further.

So refrain from showing up at places for your sake unless of course you are going somewhere by yourself and only yourself.

3) Get your diva vibe back in your own life

As much as we like to believe that playing the lovesick martyred woman will win our man’s sympathy, it doesn’t.

All it does is make you look weak and hopeless and unable to lead your own life without him.

Yes, your heart was broken. Yes, you still love and miss him. But there are still many beautiful things to enjoy in your life and to be grateful for. Celebrate them and celebrate yourself!

While accepting and acknowledging the sadness you feel from the breakup within your heart, it is also crucial that you get back to living your best life again.

Remember, no man on this planet can break you in a way that you can’t pick yourself up again and rebuild.

Interestingly, your man will find you much more attractive when he sees you diva after your breakup than when he sees you whining, sobbing and begging for his attention.

Following these steps will inspire your ex IF he is the right man to call and get in touch with you. When he contacts you, that is the time to open up and authentically share the sadness that you carry in your heart. However, you want to do this only when he has taken the initiative to contact you.

The 3 ways I give here to get your ex back at work, but they need you to be patient as a woman and trust this expert advice that you can’t get a man back by chasing him or talking to him. get back to the relationship