I used to think like in Disney and Hollywood movies that I would be standing by a table and looking up into the air; and a man was walking towards me with a smile that could capture the heart of any woman, a smile that shows some enigmatic features and said the right words while looking me straight in the eye. A moment that would take me to the stars and from which I would never want to return. I also thought of a case where I would be walking down the street and my books would fall and as I was trying to pick them up a tall handsome young guy would come up to me and offer to help me and who knows maybe my soulmate .

Since elementary school we thought that as ladies we should not fall in love with any boy who crosses our path until we are mature enough to get married. We grew up with that mentality until we realized the reality of life, while facing the real world. Most of the things we imagined were not what we saw out there. We usually have it all planned out so we don’t get disappointed, our reactions are self-defense when it comes to that “smile” and “look”; the words we would respond to him when he says “I like you baby, you’re so cute and sexy”.

But at the end of the day, it’s not what we plan that happens. With all the lessons and training our parents and teachers gave us from a young age, we still let our guard down when he shows up. Oh my world, he says all the right words, he has all the answers to every question you ask. He is so vast and knowledgeable. How does he do it? And as if that wasn’t enough, his looks are so tempting. He is so tall, so handsome, so muscular, he has 6-packs, he is well dressed, in that long-sleeved shirt with the perfect color of well-pressed long pants; or a fitted polo shirt with a good pair of jeans and tennis shoes to match. A nice hairstyle; custom cut, mature eyes and nice white teeth that light up his smile. And you wonder, “Am I in heaven? Could this be the man for me? Oh my God, he’s such a dapper and successful young gentleman; look at his ride, a Toyota high-lander. what is it? Is it happening to me? Am I already falling in love? How am I sure this isn’t fate? Could fate have brought us together? Could this be a sign from God?

You have tried so many times to fight those feelings for fear of deception. You begin to appreciate and remember everything that mom and teacher thought of you; what the pastor and guidance counselor thought of you. But they never seem to be of any help. As much as you tell yourself “I don’t want to fall in love with him”, it has subconsciously registered in your mind and you can’t seem to get it out. He is trapped there. At that time, now you have to rely on your head instead of your heart to think clearly, because your heart is confused. Logical and not emotional thinking would come into play. You wonder “why exactly do I like him? Well, if you can sit down, put your emotions aside and think it through, see past what you were worried about and dig deep, you might find the answer. Everyone has what they expect.” see in someone they want to spend a lot of time together with, and they all come in different dimensions and levels.

God is Love and He is the maker of love. Go to Him and He will give you the manual on how to walk in love. Do not be carried away by your understanding and your feelings. It is very difficult to make a decision, especially when you have seen all the qualities that you always wanted in him. But God, who made them all, male and female, made the right man just for you. Talk to Him and He will direct your path to make the right decision.