A marriage is the union of two people with the intention of sharing the rest of their lives together. This relationship should be full of the joys and pleasures of children, intimacy, companionship, commitment, trust and of course love. Unfortunately, many marriages fail and a lack of good communication skills is often the cause.
A strong and secure marriage does not develop on its own; It takes a lot of hard work and dedication on both sides to keep it healthy and alive. Being married means sharing ideas, thoughts and feelings with your partner on a daily basis, something that is not easy for someone who has lived alone for a long time. The need to communicate effectively with each other is vital to the existence of a successful marriage.
In the early days of your new relationship, passion was alive and romance came naturally, life was glorious and you expected it to stay that way forever. Unfortunately for many, it is not so, why? The main reason is that the beautiful creatures that we call our children are coming. With this added facet of married life comes new and more responsibilities, a bigger house and car, childcare and school fees, etc. They both work harder in their respective jobs, both inside and outside the home, to accomplish all that it takes to raise these little souls, and often in the rush of life, they forget about the needs of others.
This is where good communication skills are essential. Not only listen to your partner’s verbal signs of communication for attention, but also watch out for non-verbal signs. Husbands and wives alike can feel neglected at one point or another during these busy years, and if your partner is not on the lookout for signs of neglect and takes action, the results can be devastating.
Watch for body language that may indicate something is wrong; listen not only with your ears but with your heart to the things your partner is saying to you. If you have any suspicions that something is wrong, talk about it, never assume that things will get better on their own, they very rarely will.
The need to find time somewhere in your busy schedule to spend time alone with your partner cannot be stressful enough. It doesn’t have to mean dining at an expensive restaurant; A cup of coffee at the local coffee shop also works. A weekend away is wonderful, but if finances are tight, try a walk on the beach or perhaps a day’s drive along the coast. The goal is to spend 1-1 time with the love of your life and connect with each other, communicate thoughts and feelings, and renew and maintain the passion that you both felt in the beginning.
Marriage is a wonderful institution and worth the effort and dedication required to maintain it. Learn to communicate with your partner and be sincere and honest with each other and live a wonderful life together.
